Dear Shanna, My girlfriend and I have been together a few years and the sex is fantastic. We’ve become friends with another couple (also lesbian) and there seems to be chemistry between us. I know the term “swinging” is somewhat outdated, but I think it’s the best word for what we’re interested in. Is it a good idea? If so, how do we move forward?
Hi Shanna,
I’ve recently moved in with my girlfriend of four years, and I’m not sure what to do about having sex on the weeks that she has custody of her two kids, ages 5 and 7. She usually has an open–door policy with them, which is great, but I want some adult time too. What should we do?
I’m a lesbian in my late 50s, and have already gone through’ the change’ (that’s menopause, for those not in the know). I noticed that there are some differences both physically and with my sex drive, and was wondering if you had any advice on how to re-set my ‘on’ button.
So I finally got around to reading the ridiculously popular book Fifty Shades of Grey. While I wasn’t the hugest fan of the writing or male dominant heteronormativity of the book, I thought that whole kinky thing was kind of hot, and wanted to know how I could work on introducing the concept to my girlfriend to see if she might be into it too. Any ideas?
Hi Shanna,
I’m kind of new to the whole ‘having sex’ thing, and want to know how I can tell when my partner is faking an orgasm. What are the signs?
– Wondering if it’s Real in City Park
My 10-year lesbian partner and I have always had amazing sex. My sex drive has always been on the high side, but as we’ve progressed in our relationship, the amount has diminished, as seems to usually be the case. There have been been many disappointing times I thought we’d be intimate but it never occurred. I’m frustrated at not ever being able to decide if or when we have sex. Do you have any suggestions?
I am happily in a long term, monogamous relationship, but my partner is in the military and is deployed. I don’t believe in masturbation – any suggestions on how to relieve the tension?
Hi Shanna,
My current partner and I have been engaging in sexual activities for the last 8 months, and every time we either we have intercourse, or I give him head, he lasts (I kid you not) about 30 seconds! It’s so frustrating; I honestly go home and have to masturbate silly! He doesn’t think it’s an issue, but how can I make him last longer? Any help would be great.
– Disappointed in Denver
Dear Shanna,
It’s always awkward for me to bring up using a condom during oral sex with guys that I am hooking up with, but it’s very important to me to use protection, even during blow jobs. Any suggestions?
Dear Shanna, My partner and I have decided to try in vitro fertilization to have a child. I’m having to have a variety of injections and monitor my cycle, and it has definitely started to affect my sex drive. How can we keep the loving happening while still working hard to become pregnant? ————— Dear [...]