Why are guys the same everywhere I go?

Dear Brent,

Guys don’t seem any different in Colorado than any other places I’ve lived – many are flakes about meeting up or arrogant both in person and online.

10 ways to move from romantic dud to flirtatious stud!

Warmer weather brings opportunities to meet new people and have fun. Here are some ideas about fine–tuning your ability to throw out and pick up the right cues for the best experience.

Getting in the mood to be social

Dear Brent,

My social skills are not at the level I want them to be to connect with people. I’ve been reading your column for a long time and you are always pushing people to meet up in person to develop friendships and relationships, but I don’t feel that I have the confidence to even begin trying to connect. What suggestions do you have to get me started?

Searching for the wrong soul mate

Physical attraction is usually one of the first things that smacks us across the face. But much like any advertisement, the visual component can be appealing, but the quality, taste, smell, consistency, availability, and satisfaction of that product will dictate if a person will keep coming back for more.

Online socializing with intent to meet

Dear Brent,

I used to love online socializing, but I’m concerned now that it has become the new norm in the gay scene.

I worry that we are all so disconnected and have lost the ability to connect on any organic level. I also worry for bars, clubs, and other gay establishments because people aren’t going out as much. Is human contact going to be reduced to one hour of chatting online, 15 minutes of sex, and then back to solitude?

Live each day like it’s your last

What are we waiting for? Is there ever a perfect time when we have absolutely nothing going on? Why do we procrastinate on doing things that we could do sooner than later? How do we enjoy life and connections with others if we don’t make the effort and devote the time to make things happen? When are we going to move beyond putting off those things we talk about doing?

HeinzeSight: Top 10 subversive gay behaviors

Try to keep score this week and see how many of these you can identify from yourself and others around you.

Diagnosed HIV-positive – and freaked out!

Brent, A few weeks ago I was diagnosed HIV-positive. It was a total shock.

Are sub-stereotypes misleading?

Many of us think that stereotypes are great tools in protecting us from harm, but they can also keep us in negative and judgmental places.

HeinzeSight: Beyond the stereotypical addictions

Many of us have struggled with addictions: alcohol, drugs, tobacco, sex, eating, working out, or gambling. But there are social patterns, beliefs and attitudes – many common in our community that can also fall into this category. Potentially addictive actions should be monitored on whether they’re destroying parts of our life or causing pain for [...]