Can BDSM (bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadomasochism) or kink practices be healing for survivors of sexual assault?
Dear Shanna, I have recently become sexually active with someone with HSV2 (herpes simplex virus II). My personal safety protocols call for barriers for penetrative sex, but not necessarily oral sex. How do I come to a realistic understanding of the risk of having unprotected oral sex with someone who is HSV2 positive? Would requiring […]
Dear Shanna, I’m looking for some new toys, but since almost anything can be interesting I’d rather ask what *wouldn’t* work? I am wondering, could you list five or six things I really don’t want to try using as a sex toy and why? Willing to Try Anything, Fort Collins Dear “Willing to Try Anything,” […]
Dear Shanna, How can I convince my wife that she’ll like anal sex and should try it? We have lube and some good anal sex books, but she still seems skittish. I feel like she’ll love it if she just gives it the old college try. Help! — Anxious for Anal, Broomfield Dear Anxious […]
My girlfriend is obsessed with her cat to the extent that she refused to let me lock her furry friend out of the bedroom while we are going to get down and dirty. This really creeps me out; it’s like the cat is watching us, waiting till we’re done to come and cuddle. I know she’s really connected with her pet, so I’m not sure how to bring it up. Ideas?
I’m a little worried about how to be intimate with him, since we haven’t been together in a long time, and didn’t develop our relationship at a normal pace. Any thoughts?
After a traumatic end of a serious and long-term relationship, I lost pretty much all interest in sex, including masturbation.
Dear Shanna, Is it “cheating” if it’s not in-person? I’m talking about cybersex, webcamming, sexting and all that jazz. If someone is not actually touching someone else’s body, but is being sexual in some way that I’ve mentioned, does that make it cheating or not? -Dying for Deliberate Definitions in Thornton Dear Dying for Deliberate […]
First let me say that this isn’t just you — hundreds of thousands of people, of all genders and orientations, are in this boat. Our sex drives go up and down throughout our lives.
Shanna answers a letter from someone who has lost their sex drive, and gives advice on getting it back